Happy marriage has nothing to do with costly wedding

Yu Qing, female, 46 years old, high teacher learns in, married on May 1, 1986. And on 80 time hold the century bridal most person is same, the wedding when Yu Qing marriage is very simple very economical also, but quality of the marriage after she marries and matrimony are full however, contented, there still are rare passion and conjugal love between she and husband up to now. Speak of the grandiose and costly wedding that there already was great difference at the outset with them now, yu Qing has feeling ground evaluation greatly to say: Bridal, it is a form only, happy marriage, it is to cannot use ostentation and extravagance to come forever of dispute.

　　A recorder, 3 furniture, it is all preparation that marry

I married 1986, as it happens is I and man get married 20 years this year. Although my daughter already 18 years old, can answer the unforgettable wedding before remembering us 20 years, up to now clearly is in eye, as if to be in yesterday.
1982, I 22 years old divided present middle school from graduate of normal school college, before long, the colleague introduced a boy or girl friend to me, it is to be the same as the maths of school teacher. Other grows high greatly, very spirit. The dean at that time very approve of our love, but raised a requirement: That cannot marry inside 3 years namely. He is afraid that we marry prematurely want the child to delay attend class. Then, this love talks is 4 years. After the Spring Festival 1986 passes, we begin to discuss to marry. His native place is in the country does not have distant on the west bridal chamber, and the school is OK without the house also deal out us. But, my parents decides to vacate a house to give us, will been April at this moment the middle ten days of a month, we are in surely hurriedly 1986 " 51 " marry.

1986, can saying is a watershed that that time marries at that time. Go up century 80 years early days, marry should have " 3 turn to ring the Ca that take Ka " . "3 turn " point to watch of bicycle, sewing machine, Zhong Huo, "One noise " it is a recorder, "Ka Ca " it is camera. Had this 5 big, be the wedding that compares ostentation and extravagance. When 1986, conjugal standard is configured already from " 3 turn to ring " promotion arrives " one colour 3 pairs " , namely washing machine of recorder of colour television, double card, double crock and double door freezer, want these buy is neat, doing not have 349 money do not do. At that time, I and his salary is every month 50 multivariate, total saving adds up also buy these not quite. The decision after we discuss: Do according to one's abilities, like to hear a song we, spent 300 multivariate money bought a recorder. Bridal chamber is very small, besides a piece of bed, a piece of desk, remnant places the place of ark of a coat. These 3 furniture ask a person to hit, spent in all 500 multivariate. Parents was done to me again " 4 shops 4 lids " , namely 4 beds quilt 4 mattess garrulous, this is all family belongs when we marry.

When getting a marriage certificate, we also want to illuminate a piece at that time just popular marriage gauze is illuminated. The chromatic enlarge picture with the marriage gauze not quite good also character that there is a bundle of plastic flower, body to wrap around in the sort of bride hand namely. But, this kind of photograph at that time wants ten money, the smaller part that is equivalent to a lot of people lunar salary! Then, after discussing again, we feel too expensive, took two inches of pictures that the marriage certificate must want only.

　　 Accident misfortune, my wedding changes to be held in downstair courtyard

Because the school does not have deal out our house, school leadership feels compunctious, put forward actively to lend us to do wedding dining room and the cook that cook. April 30, 1986 in the morning, I and he called a few teachers to help, pull on the ceiling of the dining room full chromatic paper colored ribbon, cleaned a dining room again, bridal place is decided. Afternoon, I and he asked a holiday a long time, come home bathe change clothes. Cannot think of, go up in this vital link, produced the situation that expect is less than.

Afternoon, I just bathe, the school is in charge of a director of logistics to ran breathlessly to tell us a bad news: The meal of the dining room did not know to give what issue midday, a lot of teachers of lane have vomit and diarrhea, went to even cook the hospital hanging condole bottle. The president is afraid of give an accident again, decide the wedding that does not let us did in the dining room. My Mom listens at that time urgent, the guest that has 8 desks probably informs, change a place temporarily, how should inform? In those days, the person that the phone installs in the home is few, communication is basic it is to do legwork tell. More crucial is, in those days " 51 " also be conjugal wedding day, the place that holds wedding also cannot be found temporarily.

Much at 5 o'clock afternoon bell, my Mom went out. After a many hour, she laughs ah breathed out the ground to take the home. Original, my Mom looked for the lad of a few factories that with me the home is the same as a building, they promise to will help us place feast in downstair courtyard tomorrow readily. That day in the evening, my Mom is taking a person to go to the school the dining room pulled the fleshy food that prepares ahead of schedule, a fellow worker in her factory the same night finds a concern, to me the home bought a few seafood.

The following day the day has not shined, my home has been voice in downstair courtyard roaring, you breathe out I cried. My Mom was put in the courtyard from neighbour people dicker of the borrowed in the home old fashioned square table for eight people, removed 67 simple and easy gas burner, the caldron above bubbles bubble risking aroma of reeky the flesh that boil, full ground is basin of boiler bowl gourd ladle. My Mom and business of additionally 5 aunts are ceaseless, besides do dish to place feast, my Mom returns endless days and hours to make my pa and other neighbour go buying beer and soda water. And bridegroom official brought a few neighbour went at the door our school dining room, lead the teachers that still did not know to change feast location to my home group by group.

That day, the recorder that we buy newly keeps broadcasting the most popular at that time song in the courtyard, that lively and extraordinary scene is attracted a lot of people of around building and children watch the scene of bustle. In the morning 11 when 30 minutes, bridal and punctual began. Firecracker has rung, after simple ceremony ends, big food and drink is filled up with table. My work in the same placing are mixed parental fellow workers boast dish is more delicious than what restaurant should do. The weather that day is particularly good, guest people satiate drink sufficient hind, my a few young work in the same placing are flat leave in the courtyard had ball, men and women jumps kubla khah dripping wet.